Thinking About Breaking Up?
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Thinking About Breaking Up? Start Here First…

Ever been to that place where more often than not you are thinking about breaking up with your partner vs how to make it work with them? You can no longer think of their good qualities or remember the good times.

 

Does that mean its time?

 

Not necessarily but you are at a place where you have to ask yourself some difficult questions and be honest with yourself regarding the answers.

 

I am not here to tell you when it’s time for a breakup vs doubling down and putting in the effort to try to make it work.

 

However, I can suggest before making any decisions, it’s paramount to take a step back and reflect on various aspects of your relationship.

 

These are some questions to start with that may provide some insight into the overall health of your relationship but the reality is the decision when enough is enough is all yours (sorry my dear) … and whichever route you proceed with the road will not be easy and I am always available to help. Happy questioning (sigh, eye roll)

 

1. Values and Compatibility: 

• Do you and your partner share fundamental values and beliefs?
• Are there any significant differences in values that are causing conflict or tension in the relationship?
• How important are these values to you, and can you envision a future together despite them?

2. Understanding and Communication:

• Are you able to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your feelings and needs?
• Do you feel heard and understood when discussing important matters?
• Are there recurring communication issues that have been left unresolved?

3. Empathy and Support:

• Does your partner show empathy and understanding towards your feelings and experiences?
• Do you feel supported in pursuing your goals and aspirations?
• Are there instances where your partner’s lack of support has caused strain in the relationship?

4. Goals and Future Plans:

• Do you and your partner have compatible long-term goals and visions for the future?
• Are there any significant disparities in your individual goals that are causing conflict or dissatisfaction?
• Can you envision a future where both of your goals are aligned and mutually supportive?

5. Emotional Well-being:

• How do you feel in the relationship overall – fulfilled, happy, or consistently unhappy and unfulfilled?
• Are there recurring patterns of emotional distress or instability that are affecting your well-being?
• Do you feel respected, valued, and appreciated by your partner?

6. Additional Considerations:

• How do your friends and family perceive the relationship and its impact on you?
• Have you sought counseling or therapy to address relationship issues and gain perspective?
• Are there any external factors (such as distance, timing, or personal circumstances) influencing your decision?
• Are you still physically and emotionally attracted to your partner?

Finally, remember this list is not exhaustive. In the end, maybe these things are all good but you still have the feeling a breakup is the necessary course of action. Iykyk right… prioritize your happiness and well-being, even if that means making some hard decisions.